Kintsugi : Embracing Imperfection

I believe, in the journey throughout early adulthood, we have to be lost and died at some point. Well, it is of course, figuratively. Every children, begin with an innocence sense of wonder, a capacity to experience total joy at something. But as they grow older, they see about the ugly truth of reality. At this point, we may encounter a misfortune. How well we carefully craft our life, at one point, misfortune could happen. By the means of misfortune, It could be failures, heartbreaks, hopelessness, rejections or disappointments. Name it, everyone has their own version of themselves. But one thing is certain ; One’s who are love with or by someone, have to be dealing with the grief of losing. One’s who have a dream may encounter with failure. Love and grief, dream and failure, consequence and regret. one cannot stand without the other as if there will be no rain without sunshine, and that is, sadly, the undeniable part of life.

In the most desperate hours, we might be devastated about what had happened. But in the moment of dissolution we might turn our mind into concept from ancient Japanese term, Kintsugi. Kintsugi (n) “to repair with gold” ; the art of repairing pottery with gold or silver lacquer. Rather than dispose the broken pottery, they tend to fix it, understanding that the piece is more beautiful for having been broken. The idea is not to hide the damage, but to emphasized on it, embrace it by something that is more beautiful. In real life, sometimes life is not like what we thought it would be.  As modern society is unforgiving about imperfection, we sometimes go hard to ourselves. But, rather than grieving and blaming ourselves about what had happened, we might as well has to be embracing the imperfection of life. Accepting that we have flaws, accepting that we are a human being, accepting that we make mistakes. But I believe the pain we endure during hard time is not a curse, rather, it’s a gift. By dealing with failure, we might as well learn about how to get up. Heartbreaks might be as well a lesson to teach us about acceptance, and rejections might be as well a sign for new opportunities. After the hard times is upon as, we might as well gifted with the new way of seeing life differently. As if the sun come up upon the horizon after a long winter night, we have been, --figuratively, born once again. We upgrade ourselves through the scattered broken pieces, gather it together, and make it’s own meaning with something that is more beautiful than before.

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We were once Hiroshima and Nagasaki.

A havoc wreck of unfortunate destiny.

But beyond desperation and the grief that shouldn’t be,

There’s a wisdom in the place most unlikely;

There’s the time when the last light of Eden fading out of sight.

The days of grey skies march forward in and nothing feels alright.

And then mortal will enslaved by it’s own mind in the horror of the night

In the combat between dark and bright side of the light.

Along with Phoenix reborn from it’s ash

Redeem thy soul by mercy on every clash

Put aside scars and throw it into trash

In the land of new sun, darkness wouldn’t lasts

Because even in the burning loathe and pitch despair

And the collision damage that beyond repair

If  there are hopes still linger in the air,

One’s who forgive, one day shall prevail.

                                     (Surabaya, February 2016)

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